Comments on The Junky's Wife: Nodding Off Pisses Me Off.

For what it's worth (and never having been there),...

2007-09-19T19:21:00.000-04:00

For what it's worth (and never having been there), I think you handled this EXACTLY right.

Right now, I think that if I saw mine on the nod- ...

2007-09-19T13:08:00.000-04:00

Right now, I think that if I saw mine on the nod- I'd fuckin kick his teeth out the back of his head- but, you see, I am already back to relishing that he is such a good addict and would NEVER do that! That, and I had a dream last night that I found a burnt spoon his pants pocket! And had to admit that he was shooting it and spending ALL our money the whole fucking time. It was a bad dream and I woke up thinking I had to move out. Then I realized, thank god, that didn't happen. Dreams are weird.

Wiz S.

Dam you have a "lock box"? Im sorry hunny but that...

2007-09-18T23:17:00.000-04:00

Dam you have a "lock box"? Im sorry hunny but thats fucking nuts! I NEVER have to hide anything from my wife no matter what it is, drugs, money, cell phone, jewlery, ANYTHING!
Yo girl thats not cool at all.
Whats this shit taking sleeping pills at 4pm? Are you sure he took a pill and didnt get high?
I really fell for you, you put up with alot of shit.
you know if my wife was doing this i would stand by her just the same, so I understand and Im here for you!

i would think a reovering drud addict should not b...

2007-09-18T14:14:00.000-04:00

i would think a reovering drud addict should not be taking sleeping pills... if F took a sleeping pill i would be very upset and i would consider it a relapse of some sort. there is no need to take one esp at 4:00 in the afternoon. Keep em locked away !

I am glad that you can pull yourself away from the...

2007-09-18T14:09:00.000-04:00

I am glad that you can pull yourself away from the situation and look at it instead of getting all bat shit crazy and reacting. It's so easy to react. I am glad you saw it in his mom and said, well yeah, that is that. And that you saw the potential in G and that yeah, bad move, but he did put forth an effort. It's something. And it's healthy. good for you

He is doing his best even if it's not someone else...

2007-09-18T12:17:00.000-04:00

He is doing his best even if it's not someone else's idea of best.
And it's so, so, so fucking hard, J!
I know you know that and I know you get it more than most non-addicts do.
He's blessed to have you. For what it's worth, I think he's doing well -- making awesome progress. Just one junky's opinion.
You sound well. Go grl -- work those steps!
Love,
Scout

Nodding off makes me mad, too...and my husband nev...

2007-09-18T01:56:00.000-04:00

Nodding off makes me mad, too...and my husband never even did heroin but sure as hell nods off a lot. I feel for you, though...I imagine trying to handle your fears must drive you crazy sometimes.

Check you out -- staying all sane. I get crazy wh...

2007-09-18T00:20:00.000-04:00

Check you out -- staying all sane. I get crazy when my husband nods off too, but I still cannot figure out why.

Nodding off makes me crazy too. Boy you're soundi...

2007-09-17T23:49:00.000-04:00

Nodding off makes me crazy too. Boy you're sounding awfully damned healthy tonight!

More than progress, I think it is success. It's li...

2007-09-17T23:00:00.000-04:00

More than progress, I think it is success. It's like... look at JW, she's navigating life and all it's multitudinous (my new favorite word) ups and downs on her own terms and she's not giving up anything. Nada. Good going.

Well, I read this and think to myself, very emotio...

2007-09-17T22:33:00.000-04:00

Well, I read this and think to myself, very emotionally and with deep respect, because what I read here is amazing growth. Or progress, or call it what you will. But isn't that you're ultimate goal, to love your husband, in good times and bad, in sickness and in health, while not letting his illness completely take over your life, so you can still feel happy with where not only are you happy with where you are in life, but understanding with compassion of where the man you love is in his. You simply amaze me. Hold on to whatever you have grasped, because you are touching the spiritual bridge between dealing with life and living life. If you can keep looking at life through this perception, I honestly think you found the key.